I am so sorry. It is emotional abuse that we endure because we love them, but we all need to still know it is not only ok, but vital that we draw our boundaries. I told my almost 15 year old son the other day that this is the first emotionally abusive relationship I have ever been in and that if he wasn't my son I would break up with him. Kind of tongue in cheek, but not really. It is how addicts are enabled for so long. The same motivating factors; we love them so we give until we are bled dry. That kind of language is never acceptable. I hope you are able to have a dialogue with them where they can hear you. Share with them that you are a human, with a soul and a beating heart that gets wounded just like theirs. And that you giving money to them isn't a sign of love anymore than their words are a sign of hate. We show love through our deeds and our kindness. It is so very challenging. If there is a way to give yourself some space from them while this is going on, perhaps they will feel how much they need you, and that verbally abusing you will not ever get them what they want. Best of luck to you. I feel what you are going through. So deeply.